Sexual chemistry is one of the essential parts of a relationship. If a partnership lacks sexual chemistry, the relationship becomes monotonous. Sexual chemistry is vital to a healthy bond between two lovers. In the initial stages of a relationship, the couple feels a strong attraction towards each other. This appeal makes both the partners long for each other’s presence and touch. Love is something that is expressed through contact in a relationship. Sexual chemistry is not only a physical aspect, but it has psychological connections as well. A couple who is physically intimate feels a strong emotional bond with each other which makes their relationship last longer. But if a couple lacks this sexual chemistry, then it would be silly to expect it to last long. Intimacy is something that every human needs from their partner, and if they do not feel a good chemistry, then the relationship breaks at some point. Do you lack good sexual chemistry in your relationship?
There are three states of sexual chemistry - good chemistry, lousy chemistry and no chemistry at all. Some people have good chemistry, some have bad chemistry and some feel no chemistry with their partner. Good chemistry is when a couple feels compatible with each other and they enjoy their sex life. The unfortunate ones are those who do not feel a chemistry at all. They do not feel the 'click' when they are with each other. Some couples also suffer from bad chemistry. They stay uncomfortable in each other’s presence and they have no rapport. However, sexual chemistry is not directly related to love. Sexual chemistry can be built between two people who do not like each other. Weird right? Despite its no direct connection with love, it is very crucial for a relationship. If you miss sexual chemistry in your relationship then you must do something to improve it. The sexual chemistry does not remain same after years of togetherness. The initial attraction and infatuation grow and it becomes mature love. After being together for months the sexual attraction decreases because couples forget to take care of each other in the manner they did in the beginning. So what should a person do if they do not feel a sexual chemistry with their partner or if their sexual chemistry has decreased over time? How to build intense sexual chemistry?
#1. Spend Some Time Away
Spending time with each other all the time all day long can be one of the reasons for the loss of sexual chemistry in your relationship. The more you stay with each other, the more your chemistry runs away from you. When you stay away from them, you will miss them. The larger the distance, the stronger the urge to meet. You should feel the distance ripping you apart and a flame of desire burning inside you to meet them. If you stay together, you will not miss them, and if you do not miss each other you will not crave for each other sexually. Avoid clinging to each other. Let distance make you crazy for each other. Distance can prove magical in a relationship. There is a phrase that says “Distance makes a heart grow fonder” and it is no lie. The best thing about keeping a distance is that you get to know how much you crave for their presence. Spending some time away will also give you time to pamper yourself. And if the distance does not make a difference to or your partner then there is something wrong.
#2. Increase Your Charisma
If you want to build sexual chemistry in your relationship, then you will have to change yourself a bit. Work on your personality and bring out your old charm back. Impress your partner by working on your appearance. When people begin to date, they do everything to impress their partner, but after they get into a relationship, they lose all the interest to dress up. The way you present yourself creates an impact on the other person. Bring your magnetism and attract your partner by dressing up the way they like or do not dress up at all (wink). You will surely catch their attention when they see you in an entirely different avatar. Practice a sound speech that can attract your partner. Be flirty and talk witty. Men and women get attracted to people who are sarcastic or funny. Get a charming and playful expression on your face when you talk to your partner. Show them that you have not lost your skills that impressed them once. If you could do it before, then you could do it now.
#3. Tease Your Partner
Teasing your partner is the most amazing way to bring the sexual chemistry into a relationship. It is fun for both the partners. When one partner teases the other, they are getting teased as well. Do not tease as little kids do. Do not make fun of them. Tease them by giving them what they want and then take it back. When you give them something they were waiting for they become more excited. And when you take it away from them they will become desperate for more. The teasing will create a sexual tension between both the partners and you both will lust for more. Have a conversation that leaves them wanting to engage sexually with you. A good sexual communication can instantly build libido in both the partners leading to an amazing sexual chemistry. Praise your partner for their skills in bed and see how it teases your partner. Maintain an eye contact with your partner while you tease them. A confident body language and romantically staring eyes will tease your partner. Tip- Add humor to your conversation. It will make the conversation more enjoyable.
#4. Participate In Couple Activities
Participating in activities that need you both to come closer is one sure shot way to build sexual chemistry in your relationship. A lot of times people lose physical contact in their relationship even while living together under the same roof. In this scenario, you should plan some adventurous activities where you both will have to work together and is also exciting for both. Plan for rock climbing, bungee-jumping together or simply a paper dance competition. Engaging in these activities, you will have to stick together and communicate with each other. The physical proximity and the thrill of the activity will produce an adrenaline rush in your bodies which will make you attracted to each other even more. This will also build trust and contact between the partners. And after you go back home your partner will have a fresh outlook for you. They will see you in a different light.
#5. Fantasize About Each Other
When you are away from each other, it is best to fantasize. Think about your partner and the passion you have for them. Imagine all that you would want to do when you meet them, and it will make you excited. You will want to meet them as soon as possible. You can also share your fantasies with your partner, and it will make them fantasize about you. Make a good use of your imagination. Be romantic and plan dates in your head. Think about the perfect date and the perfect life with your partner. Next time you can use this image to make things happen in real. Use your fantasies to work in your favor. They always work unless your partner is not interested. Talk to them about it at the right time when they are relaxed and free. Make sure they do not have an emotional breakdown that day. Be considerate of their feelings as well.
#6. Create A Romantic Environment
When a couple wants to get intimate, they forget that the environment plays a huge role in increasing the chemistry. A stinking or a gloomy place can be a complete turn-off, but if the ambiance is scented and looks beautiful, then a lot of things can happen under the sheets even if you did not plan to do it. A romantic date with the place decorated with flowers and scented candles is the ideal date. Plan something romantic, or you could just keep your place clean and smell fresh. You should also try different places if you are bored with one. Sometimes, staying in the same place becomes monotonous, and you lose interest to get intimate sexually with your partner. In this case, couples should try out different places as a new space may create interest in both the partners.
#7. Indulge In PDA
Some couples like to display affection in public while some hate to show off. If your partner likes PDA, then do it. Make them feel special by holding their hand in public. Talk about them to your friends and family. It will make your partner feel special, and they will have immense love for you in their eyes. Appreciation and compliments work like magnets. Pay compliments and value them. Be happy about having them in your life.
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(Image Courtesy: 1. Baharian Confidential, 2. Goodmen Project, 3. iStock, 4. The Gottman Institute; Medicina(Featured Image Courtesy)
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